As parents we have to be mindful of how often we say no to our children just because we don't feel like doing something. Our children are at a very critical stage of life where they are continuously challenged with learning how to process information.
Children are trying their hardest to grasp the concept of logical reasoning. Failure to provide them a response that they are able to process logically typically results in a rejection of our proposal and ultimately leads to an outburst of emotion. There are certainly times where no is the correct answer, however we must develop a repor with them and strive to provide a logical explanation.
If we want our children to grow into well-established logical thinkers we have to model and practice these principals each day. Every opportunity is critical in their development and we must not take that for granted. The best way to help our children is to first deal with our own logical reasoning and try to understand how they will process or perceive our response.
As a parent it is our responsibility to provide them with an environment and culture that promotes logical reasoning and resolution. With a strong understanding of how our children think we can begin to work towards a development plan that stimulates their ability to practice logical reasoning. Rather than simply rejecting their request we as parents can attempt to reason with them. After all they too are tiny humans and have emotions and ideas as well.
It is important that we realize as parents that we too are constantly developing in the realm of logical reasoning and we too are learners just as our children. We must not let our lack of growth and immaturity conflict with that of our children. Rather than reject our own acceptance of personal growth we can grow with our children and work towards maturing our own ability to exercise logical reasoning.
I personally am working towards cutting out what I have determined to be buzz phrases.
- Because I said so...
- No...
- I don't owe you an explanation...
While these words may all be acceptable in today's society we must ask ourselves, "How does any of these responses promote logical reasoning ?". Are we actually helping our children develop by supplying a single phrase rejection ?
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